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more than words.

5/23/2012

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I've mostly been happy with the fact that I'm not particularly good-looking.  Not because "there's more to life than being really really really good-looking"
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Although if you've mastered "blue magnum" you're kind of set for life. That thing could cure world hunger.
but because I know if I were pretty, I'd be incredibly vain.  And I would spend A LOT of time looking at myself in the mirror.  There's just not enough time in the day for that.  If you add up all the times during the day pretty girls (and come to think of it, pretty boys too) check themselves out in the mirror during the day, it would most likely add up.  Just like the amount of time you spend on facebook just to make a "quick" check.  For me, one glance in the morning to make sure I don't have eye goop is more than enough.  OR a teeth check after a particularly dangerous meal.

Incidentally, this is a good way to check your friendship level with someone.  If you're at a point where you can comfortably tell someone they have something massive stuck in their teeth, or they have a booger hanging off their nose, this is a good place to be.  I mean, that level, not at the receiving end of that situation.
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Going back to pretty/good-looking, I think I use the word "beautiful" quite often.  Maybe too much.  If people use and reuse it constantly, does it lose effect?  Kind of like how the word "love" is thrown around a lot.  That's one of the reasons I don't like to be called "sweetheart" or "honey" or "dear"...because I feel like it's a filler word that can be transferred onto anyone.  I like hearing my name the best.  It sounds different from every person.  Being told you're beautiful or receiving an "I love you" can be a wonderful thing, but it's a little weird to me because I'm no longer sure if my standards for those words are the same standards for others.

Sometimes the English language is too limited.  That's why in high school (or maybe now for some of us, I don't know) the question was always "do you like her?  Or do you like like her?" (the last said with quirked eyebrows).

One of the reasons I'm smitten with the words "beautiful" and "love" is because they go beyond what you see.  I think the word "beautiful" goes beyond what's seen to inside -- beautiful is meant to be about the soul.  And saying something is beautiful doesn't mean it's necessarily all good or happy.  Sometimes sad, tragical, or complicated things are beautiful.  Same with what love means -- it goes beyond just the good, or happy, or visually appealing.  It's meant to transcend all of that and accept who/what's given as it is.  If these words aren't used/given in this manner, I think it's a shallow imitation of all that the word can offer.  And I've been guilty of this too, I know.  And maybe our words are only made true by what we do...but maybe that wouldn't be the case if we would use them with a little more care.

Just my humble opinion.

I have a little over a week left here in California before I move up to Seattle, now that I've graduated and finished my MFA (yay!  More on that later!).  It's been a crazy two years here...but I can honestly say it's been beautiful too.  Thanks.
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No need.
6/14/2012 03:43:47 pm

And you are a very beautiful person. :)

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